Parenting is the most challenging yet rewarding undertaking I have ever been tasked
I have two beautiful souls whom I am blessed with and honored to call my children. They are loving, adventurous, resilient, creative and extremely silly individuals who are a constant source of joy and inspiration.
When my son was born, in 1999, I was quite overwhelmed by the responsibility of being a parent. For me, the question was not whether I could raise a child but rather, how do I raise a spiritual, emotional and physically healthy individual who will contribute to the betterment of the world? And so began the journey to figure this parenting gig out, and I soon realized that to raise a whole being, I had to begin with my personal transformation.
My children have a way of holding the mirror up and revealing my most glaring imperfections. As a result, throughout this journey, I have had to look at and work on myself in order to help them along their journey. Every day I am grateful because they continue to challenge me to become a better version of myself.
Being a mother has been and continues to be one of the greatest adventures and joys of my life, and I love it! In the
Here are some insights I’ve picked up over the years about parenting that have helped me tremendously.
• Treat children with dignity. Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity no matter who they are. Dignity is a human right. Always ask yourself does what I am doing leave my child with his/her dignity intact? One can discipline a child without stripping them of their dignity, so learn out how.
• Parent with the long term in mind. Is what you are doing
• Childhood is a time of magic. Sometimes, allow yourself to be swept away into your child’s world of magic, wonder, and adventure! It passes all too quickly,
• Inject your relationship with humor. Let
• Examine your relationship with mistakes and failures. Mistakes are wonderful opportunities to learn and failure is just information. You often learn more from failure
• We are all flawed, so embrace it. There are no perfect parents or children. We are all perfectly imperfect being trying to figure it all out. So cut yourself some slack and do so for your children and other people in your life.
• Breathe! When things start to fall apart, the first step to
• Model, Model, Model! Model the behaviors and qualities you want to help your child with. Be loving, honest, kind, compassionate, forgiving and they will learn to do the same. Ask the mirror neurons they know.
• Trust your intuition. In this modern age, where we are often made to distrust our intuition, trust it. Be careful to distinguish between your intuition and ego. You know your children better than anyone else, so trust that inner voice that knows the answers.
• Always remember “This too shall pass.” Everything eventually comes to an end.
Parenting is a challenging but noble deed, so welcome the challenge, enjoy the journey, learn to relax and trust that everything will turn out okay. Here is a quote that has inspired my parenting and so I share that with you. Please feel free to
“O ye loving mothers, know ye that in God’s sight, the best of all ways to worship Him is to educate the children and train them in all the perfections of humankind; and no nobler deed than this can be imagined.” –
Ridvan Foxhall is a mother of two young adult children, she is an occupational therapist and positive discipline parenting educator. Ridvan Foxhall is the founder and Producer of The Children’s Theatre Co. of Peekskill, and executive director of New Era Creative Space, an educational enrichment center dedicated to awakening children to their innate potential for good by exposing them to programs that are fun, creative, experiential and character building. Follow me on Medium and visit ridvanfoxhall.com and necspace.com to learn more about my adventures.